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Mom, Be Easy on Yourself

Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers out there and to all those who are honoring their moms today.  

Here in Niger Mother's Day isn't a thing.  In fact, most moms soldier on day after day without a lot of praise or gifts of appreciation for their hard work.  But like moms everywhere, they take pride in their kids, work hard for them, and defend them from those who would harm them.  At the same time, they have few expectations of receiving gifts, praise, or breakfast in bed (they would probably think that's a hilarious concept!). 

Let's be encouraged by our Nigerien sisters and be easy on ourselves today, Moms.  Let's be easy on our kids and husbands, too.  Maybe all of your expectations for the day aren't met, but try to look at the good things in the day.  All of us have moms, and even if your relationship with your mom isn't good, she did give you life. We may not get gifts, visits from family, or even much recognition.  But we have our children and we have love.  And most of us have far more than our Nigerien sisters have as far as housing, clothes, schooling options, and food.  You may feel that you aren't a good mom, but if you are doing the best you can, praying to God for wisdom, and are not abusing your children, then you're a good mom.  So be easy on yourself.

John is gone to England and obviously my kids aren't here.  But I went out for lunch with a visitor who arrived in the country last night and who is headed east tomorrow.  Afterwards I took her souvenir shopping.  My neighbors also invited me for lunch, but I couldn't be two places at once. :) I got to WhatsApp with my kids (We made a family chat so we can all be on at the same time.  It's wonderful!) This evening I'll call my mom.  So, even though it's not the Mother's Day I would choose for myself, I do choose to make the best of it and remember that this is the day the Lord has made.  I will rejoice and be glad in it.  It's the day our loving Father has planned for me and I don't question why it's not my idea of the perfect Mother's Day.

I know there are many women who have painful, relationships with their mothers and who have been deeply hurt by the person who should love them most.  There are many who do not have children but would long to have their arms filled with a deep longing that only a child can satisfy. Today the pain is even more intense as they look around and see motherhood being celebrated. Please know that you are loved and that Jesus can fill your heart. I hope that today you can also find reasons to rejoice and that the day is not too difficult and painful for you.  Be easy on yourself.  God understands the pain in your heart.


Deb said…
I love that you bring out that the day is as God has fashioned it. Maybe not how we would have it,but blessed just the same. 😘❤

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